gidget1978
Cathlete
We/I just don't know what to do with our daughter anymore. Before I go any further, I don't want to make her sound like a lost cause or a really bad child but I just wish she had respect for other people and clean up after herself.She as good days with bad days but the bad days drive me insane!
Just before Christmas there was the big ordeal with the cell phone that some of you may have read. We kept our word and she didn't get the phone. Not only that but she is moving further away from the phone all the time. I took someones suggestions and Ive used the words "decide" and "choose" but I really don't see a difference. Just the other night I told her that she can have her cell phone but she is choosing not to have it. I told her it was entirly up to herself if she wants the phone or not but she as to earn it.
I am at work today all day and DH isn't much help. He keeps calling me with updates of things she as done, and this boils my blood just as much as her being bad does. He says that he is tired of talking to her.
Earlier today DH took the baby down into his playroom. When he got there, DD was in the room watching a movie. He told her that she had to turn the movie off and put something on for DS. Why she was in the playroom, I have no clue. There are other rooms in the house she could have watched her movie in.DS sees DD, crawls over to her, excited, she gets up from her chair,tries to lift her leg over his head,kicks him in the head and sends him back down on his butt. She didn't hurt him and it was an accident but she didn't even turn around and ask if he was o.k. She just went on.This shows that she doesn't care and I don't want a child that doesn't care.
After we took the cell phone away from her, her attitude did seem to be a little better, but you know what? She wasn't spending much time with her friends at this point. I don't want to blame other kids for my childs carless attitude but it seems like she is at her worse when she hangs with other kids.
She barely picks up after herself,I have to clean her room before I can clean her room, if she is home all day she is in her p.j's roaming from room to room. She is just a lump.We started giving her an allowance but have cut her off until she starts doing things again.
I just made up a list of chores to stick unto the fridge. I have:
*make bed *clean room *attitude * dishes in dishwasher * school bag in room *Clothes in hamper...list goes on. If she does these things everyday, she will get her allowance at the end of the week. If not, nothing, or maybe I will deduct part of her allowance. Im not asking her to clean up my mess or anyone elses...just pick up after herself and this would make my life much easier.
She as already lost her computer, that hasn't been hooked up in ages. Next will be her Ipod and then her t.v in her room.
Is there anything else i can do? I feel like I am failing as a parent. I know they go through things and I know my attitude wasn't always the best but I don't want her to slowly keep going downhill.I just feel hopeless. Am I making wrong choices when taking things from her? Are there other things I should be doing?
Just before Christmas there was the big ordeal with the cell phone that some of you may have read. We kept our word and she didn't get the phone. Not only that but she is moving further away from the phone all the time. I took someones suggestions and Ive used the words "decide" and "choose" but I really don't see a difference. Just the other night I told her that she can have her cell phone but she is choosing not to have it. I told her it was entirly up to herself if she wants the phone or not but she as to earn it.
I am at work today all day and DH isn't much help. He keeps calling me with updates of things she as done, and this boils my blood just as much as her being bad does. He says that he is tired of talking to her.
Earlier today DH took the baby down into his playroom. When he got there, DD was in the room watching a movie. He told her that she had to turn the movie off and put something on for DS. Why she was in the playroom, I have no clue. There are other rooms in the house she could have watched her movie in.DS sees DD, crawls over to her, excited, she gets up from her chair,tries to lift her leg over his head,kicks him in the head and sends him back down on his butt. She didn't hurt him and it was an accident but she didn't even turn around and ask if he was o.k. She just went on.This shows that she doesn't care and I don't want a child that doesn't care.
After we took the cell phone away from her, her attitude did seem to be a little better, but you know what? She wasn't spending much time with her friends at this point. I don't want to blame other kids for my childs carless attitude but it seems like she is at her worse when she hangs with other kids.
She barely picks up after herself,I have to clean her room before I can clean her room, if she is home all day she is in her p.j's roaming from room to room. She is just a lump.We started giving her an allowance but have cut her off until she starts doing things again.
I just made up a list of chores to stick unto the fridge. I have:
*make bed *clean room *attitude * dishes in dishwasher * school bag in room *Clothes in hamper...list goes on. If she does these things everyday, she will get her allowance at the end of the week. If not, nothing, or maybe I will deduct part of her allowance. Im not asking her to clean up my mess or anyone elses...just pick up after herself and this would make my life much easier.
She as already lost her computer, that hasn't been hooked up in ages. Next will be her Ipod and then her t.v in her room.
Is there anything else i can do? I feel like I am failing as a parent. I know they go through things and I know my attitude wasn't always the best but I don't want her to slowly keep going downhill.I just feel hopeless. Am I making wrong choices when taking things from her? Are there other things I should be doing?