What to do..what to do????

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lorihart

Cathlete
Hi Everyone,
I am looking for a little advice here and prehaps I am over reacting to.
We are leaving for Cuba this Thursday.My mom is taking care of my daugther (for the most part).She is going to my parents house on Friday and not comming home until Monday.It was all working out great b/c she loves going out there and I knew she would be well taken care of.My mom lives about 1 1/2 hours drive from me.
Anyway,my daughter is in her first year of gymnastics.She has a compeition comming up on May21-23.Thats fine.I just got a phone call saying that there is a compeition THIS weekend in our town.Its a good idea for her to go b/c it gives her some idea of what to expect the end of May.There will also be judges there who want to see how well the girls are doing.Now I don't know what to do.
It was short notice.My in-laws are also going to be out of the province so they can't go either.My mom can't take her b/c she is going to be working and my father will be watching her.(my brother lives next door,he as 3 small kids so they just play the whole weekend)
I asked the person who phoned if it was a must that she be there. First there was a pauce then she said that they never "have" to be there but it is a good way of getting use to whats to come.
Im not cancelling my trip and losing $4000.I can't ask the babysitter to cart my child around all weekend and then attend the compeition and the thoughts of her competing and me not being there is heart wrenching.A child always needs to see their parents in the crowd when they are competing.
Should I just shrung it off and say oh well,bad timing? I really don't know what else there is for me to do.I will be thinking about this until it gets sorted out.
Any advice???/
Thanks,
Lori
 
Hi Everyone,
I am looking for a little advice here and prehaps I am over reacting to.
We are leaving for Cuba this Thursday.My mom is taking care of my daugther (for the most part).She is going to my parents house on Friday and not comming home until Monday.It was all working out great b/c she loves going out there and I knew she would be well taken care of.My mom lives about 1 1/2 hours drive from me.
Anyway,my daughter is in her first year of gymnastics.She has a compeition comming up on May21-23.Thats fine.I just got a phone call saying that there is a compeition THIS weekend in our town.Its a good idea for her to go b/c it gives her some idea of what to expect the end of May.There will also be judges there who want to see how well the girls are doing.Now I don't know what to do.
It was short notice.My in-laws are also going to be out of the province so they can't go either.My mom can't take her b/c she is going to be working and my father will be watching her.(my brother lives next door,he as 3 small kids so they just play the whole weekend)
I asked the person who phoned if it was a must that she be there. First there was a pauce then she said that they never "have" to be there but it is a good way of getting use to whats to come.
Im not cancelling my trip and losing $4000.I can't ask the babysitter to cart my child around all weekend and then attend the compeition and the thoughts of her competing and me not being there is heart wrenching.A child always needs to see their parents in the crowd when they are competing.
Should I just shrung it off and say oh well,bad timing? I really don't know what else there is for me to do.I will be thinking about this until it gets sorted out.
Any advice???/
Thanks,
Lori
 
Shes 8. I think she would like to go BUT the other one in May is when she as her routine and stuff. She didn't even know anything about this competiton so she couldn't of had anything planned.This kind of stuff always happens to me.
 
Shes 8. I think she would like to go BUT the other one in May is when she as her routine and stuff. She didn't even know anything about this competiton so she couldn't of had anything planned.This kind of stuff always happens to me.
 
I think it'll be ok if she misses it.
My daughter is 7, so I can kinda relate to the age. If she's having fun where she will be staying, I don't really think she will mind missing it too much. :) She probably won't realize she missed it, until her teacher brings it up. LOL

Have a fun trip!!!


Michelle

Go Wings!!!
 
I think it'll be ok if she misses it.
My daughter is 7, so I can kinda relate to the age. If she's having fun where she will be staying, I don't really think she will mind missing it too much. :) She probably won't realize she missed it, until her teacher brings it up. LOL

Have a fun trip!!!


Michelle

Go Wings!!!
 
Lori:

Relaaaaaaaax !

I agree with Michelle. It's OK to miss this one. You know, you are trying so hard to be a wonderful mother here, I can see it, but no woman can see to every possible scenario, every little eventuality. You have done your best not to step on a colleague's toes over booking your holiday, you have arranged care for your child, you took care of all the others to the best of your abilities and saw to all the eventualities as they presented themselves to you at the time. So now an unexpected little thing comes up. Hey! Life happens.

These things happen to me all the time and I have learned, or am learning, I should say, to let a few things go. When my kids' teachers lay on the projects to be completed at home and the teacher appreciation lunches are due and I have papers to grade because I'm trying to finish up the semester at the university here and my washing machine breaks down....waaaaaaaaaah! I want to scream, but it's just too much at once, you know? So, I see to what I can, and then I tell the teachers, "sorry, no can do. Maddie's project will be late and i can't even give you aballpark estimate date. And you know what? They respect that. They have to! Most people understand that we do our best, but not eerything is possible. Your daughter will miss this one, and that's life.

You are still a fabulously caring mother though, so don't you forget it! Let your daughter concentrate on a fab week with grandma uninterrupted. Kids need some peace and quiet too sometimes without rushing about on crazy timetables....

Now go to Cuba, have a marvellous time and don't think any more about it. remember: gulit is NOT part of your vocabulary, ya hear!!!???

Have fun Lori, you deserve it girl!

Clare-I'm-still-jealous!!!!!
 
Thanks guys! I thought about it last night and I decided that it would be just to much to ask someone to do.I know she would like to be there but thats all I can do.I called her teacher before I booked the trip to Cuba b/c I wanted to find out when the "real" compeition was going to be,she told me May 22nd but she didn't mention anything about this one.
I always have a fear of how someone is going to look at me.She is a nice lady so I don't think I will get the nose up in the air.But for some reason I am thinking that I will get some sort of look.
It would be great for her to go so that she can have some idea of whats to come but she never thought that she was going to have a warm up session,so she won't miss what she never had,right? And she is looking forward to competing so I think she will be fine.
Now my other problem is getting the 22nd off of work! Remember the girl who wanted to go away the week I was going? Well she is the lady who is gone the 22nd weekend and the 29 th weekend. I will use it as sick days if I have to.
Anyway,thanks again everyone.I will get her to tell her teacher this afternoon.
Lori :)
 
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