Tough times.. please send good thoughts

robyn6002

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Hello everyone:

Please send good vibes our way. Not sure if anyone has had to do this but my mother (I'm adopted) has been having mental illness issues for years and we now are dealing with going for guardianship. Basically this is taking away all her personal rights.

It's tough but know we have to do it.

She is mentally ill and REFUSES to take her medications. She is paranoid and hears voices but refuses treatment. I could go on and on. Today when I tried to get her some help she told me to shut up and mind my own business. Last weekend she tried to dry the clothes in her stove at 400 and forgot about it. They have turned off her stove. One of the "imagined" voices tricked her into doing it. We have tried MANY times to get her help but she continuosly refuses. The state does not consider her a threat to society or herself. She is convinced she is moving "imaginary" and has called multiple movers, who then realize there is no house. If someone does move her she has no home and will be homeless.

It's going to be an ugly contested battle. Long story but since my father passed away in 89 she has had many episodes. We were not close growing up but I now realize a lot was because of her mental illness. I'm a single Mom and my kids have always come first. The day she had her last move was the day my son was diagnosed with the brain aneurysm. She lives out west near my brother. She has said such horrible things about my brothers little girl (5) they nolonger talk.

My relatives are all very supportive and say I need to do this and my father would be proud. This means the world to me.

Needless to say it's difficult to deal with work and stuff. Thank God my son is doing well. The initial meds were effecting him cognitively but the new ones are much better. In fact this week he got a 99 on an Algebra II honors test on logs :)

I haven't been able to motivate to work out, know this would be good but with the life and death situation and now this with my mother, I'm quite worn out.

Anyhow thanks for your thoughts
 
I'm so sorry you're going through this. It sounds like you're doing the right thing, though. You are in my thoughts. Good luck and let us know how it works out. Take care.
 
Definitely in my thoughts and prayers. You have your plate full right now. It does sound like you're making the right decision.

Dallas
 
Robyn~

I am praying the Lord comforts you and gives you strength during this very, very difficult time. Thank God you have supportive relatives. Thank God your son is doing well on his new meds. I can not imagine how very hard the challenges you're facing must be but I will remember to pray for you and your family. God bless you.

~ Kim

"Welcome the challenge...Embrace it...Don't fear it." -Cathe Friedrich
 
Robyn,

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through some tough times. As the others have said, it sounds like you are doing all you can do and don't really have a choice.

The only thing you can do when times get like that is to take it one day at a time, and then if that's too much, one hour at a time, etc.

You are in my thoughts and prayers..

Sandra S.
 
Hang in there Robyn! It might not feel like it, but it sounds like you are handling everything as well as anyone could.

You're doing what needs to be done with your mother, as she could hurt herself without even meaning to. You're just trying to protect her and others. Kudos on standing up and doing what's right even though it sucks! Be proud of yourself for that.

Glad to hear your son is doing so well! Tell him congrats on the 99!

Don't worry too much about working out, didn't you know that stress burns extra calories? ;) Hugs, prayers and good thoughts are on the way!

Nadine

~~Happiness is an Attitude~~

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My prayers and good vibes are coming your way. I know it is helpful when relatives are supportive...that is awesome about your son getting the 99 and in Algebra II!!...you and your family will be in my thoughts thru this rough time...:)...Carole
 
Robyn -

As someone who knows the toll that family illness can take on a family (my mother has late state Alzheimers at the age of 67) I will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers. As someone else said, take it a day at a time, hour, minute, second, whatever. Just do what you know is best!
 
Robin this board can be very helpful for all kinds of support. I will keep you in my prayers. Blessings to you and all your family.
PS Give your son a big extra hug for his 99% on his exam!!
Judy
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Robyn-I am sorry you are going through a difficult time. Sounds like you have support and that is a plus. I hope you get everything worked out for your mom. I am so glad your son is doing well. A 99, WOW, that is great. Sending {{HUGS}} your way.:)
 
Wow Robyn, that is a tough one. Be assured that you are doing the right thing and that the right thing can be very difficult sometimes. My thoughts are wiht you & your mom....Christine
 
I can't imagine going through something like this. Good karma and strength coming your way.

--Lois


"If I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning" - Mahatma Ghandi
 
Robyn- You are doing what's best for your Mom. Sometimes the right thing feels like the worst thing. Remember God will not give you anymore than you can handle. So have faith that you are doing the right thing and I will keep you in my prayers too. Kali
 
Robyn,

Is your mother Schizophrenic? It certainly sounds like it based on your post.

There really is nothing more any of you can do. Even though it's difficult, you're doing the only thing you can to keep her from harm.
 
Many thoughts & prayers coming your way Robyn! Hang in there. You are doing the best you can do. Hooray for your son. That is a miracle in itself! :7 Keep us posted on your mom.
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Robyn,
I know from my experience with my husband's family members that mental illness is a tough thing to deal with. You'd like to just get into your loved one's head and rearrange things so they'll think clearly again. God bless your efforts and please know that some things are just out of your hands. Saying a prayer for you!
 
So sorry to hear about this. Mental illness is very difficult to handle. I'm sure once you have power of attorney, you will feel much better. And you're mother will be much safer. Glad to hear your son is doing so much better also.

I will be praying for you and your family.

Diana
 

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