LittleMoFit
Active Member
Nancy, You and I share a similarity in that I didn't "find" my career until I was 45. I'm turning 50 this year, and I also struggled since graduating college with feeling grown-up (even though I got married at 20 and had 2 children, and also worked in several different fields). Eventually (18 years! 
), I figured out what an immense mismatch the marriage was, and ended it. Then I decided to get my MBA as a 39+ year old. Talk about cultural wake-up!!!
After earning my MBA and trying on even MORE careers for ANOTHER five years, one of my old MBA class-mates, who is 16 years my junior, recruited me into HIS world of commercial real estate in a large bank. He remembered me (the old lady, ;-) ), and knew my work-ethic & capabilities. Anyhow, I've been working for this man and the same bank now for five years, and I finally have my "niche" and my true "career".
All of this uncertainty, and experimentation, and struggle led me to develop an actual LIFE. I also met a wonderful man who is now my 2nd husband and true "partner" in life.
My point to the original poster, is that sometimes it takes TIME to figure out your true calling, or your career path, or even whether your life partner is going to be someone you eventually meet, or even whether your life partner is YOURSELF.
There is no one, right answer. So if you don't feel satisfied, keep on searching. Keep on meeting new people. Keep on trying new things. Occasionally read a good book and hibernate in your house for a few days. Solitude can also be very healthy and valuable. But no matter what, keep ON.
I may be nearly 50, but like some of the others said, I'm never too old to do something else, until that day in the future when I STOP aging. My motto in my marriage and in all of my relationships is "come, grow old with me; the best is yet to be."
P.S. Here's the real kicker: Despite my good job, and my good marriage, sometimes I STILL don't want to go to work, and sometimes I STILL don't want to be around my husband for a while. And sometimes I STILL find myself feeling vaguely discontent. Life is definitely NOT always perfect. But when I take the time to look at where I am, and where I've been, I remember that perfection isn't the goal - keeping the PROCESS of moving towards a better place IS the goal. Like those cute T-shirts say, all in all, "Life is Good!" :7
), I figured out what an immense mismatch the marriage was, and ended it. Then I decided to get my MBA as a 39+ year old. Talk about cultural wake-up!!! After earning my MBA and trying on even MORE careers for ANOTHER five years, one of my old MBA class-mates, who is 16 years my junior, recruited me into HIS world of commercial real estate in a large bank. He remembered me (the old lady, ;-) ), and knew my work-ethic & capabilities. Anyhow, I've been working for this man and the same bank now for five years, and I finally have my "niche" and my true "career".
All of this uncertainty, and experimentation, and struggle led me to develop an actual LIFE. I also met a wonderful man who is now my 2nd husband and true "partner" in life.
My point to the original poster, is that sometimes it takes TIME to figure out your true calling, or your career path, or even whether your life partner is going to be someone you eventually meet, or even whether your life partner is YOURSELF.
There is no one, right answer. So if you don't feel satisfied, keep on searching. Keep on meeting new people. Keep on trying new things. Occasionally read a good book and hibernate in your house for a few days. Solitude can also be very healthy and valuable. But no matter what, keep ON.
I may be nearly 50, but like some of the others said, I'm never too old to do something else, until that day in the future when I STOP aging. My motto in my marriage and in all of my relationships is "come, grow old with me; the best is yet to be."
P.S. Here's the real kicker: Despite my good job, and my good marriage, sometimes I STILL don't want to go to work, and sometimes I STILL don't want to be around my husband for a while. And sometimes I STILL find myself feeling vaguely discontent. Life is definitely NOT always perfect. But when I take the time to look at where I am, and where I've been, I remember that perfection isn't the goal - keeping the PROCESS of moving towards a better place IS the goal. Like those cute T-shirts say, all in all, "Life is Good!" :7
