probems with child at the gym HELP!

[mommyj]

Hi Everyone, I'm having a tough problem with my 3 year old. He has begun throwing up when he sees we're at the gym. I can honestly tell you nothing bad happened there - believe me that was the first thing I checked He used to go with me from birth on, then I took a year off (I'm an instructor) to hang with him more and try new things and when I decided to go back to teaching because I missed it too much he started the throw up thing. It's obviously nerves - my guess is he's realizing we're now going to be separated. What happens is he throws up and then he's fine and we are able to head into the gym. He does fine then in the day care. I want to be able to hit the gym with no worries, but instead find I have to bring extra clothes and be ready to run back out the door the minute he gets the "gurgles". Not to mention this is very embarassing if anyone notices. I'm frustrated. I've got 3 other kids and this has never been an issue before. I need to get back to the gym!!!!

 

[Fit_mommy]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I don't know what else to say but that he should eventually get used to going again and this should stop. If you stop going because of this then you are giving in to him and it will never get better. I know that sounds harsh but I work in a gym daycare and have a young child myself. I see the difference when the mom's "allow" their kids to be upset (I was one of them until DS got over it) and the mom's who don't let it happen and give into whatever it is the child is doing to show that he/she doesn't want them to leave.

If he was never like this before, it's probably a short-term phase that he is going through because it's a new environment to him all over again. Give him a chance and I'll bet he'll be okay.....

My son spent lots of time in the gym daycare while I worked out before he started pre-k. That being said, I thought pre-k would be no problem. I was wrong. He screamed and cried and didn't want to let me leave for the better part of the first month of school. It was a new environment and he was nervous/scared about it. I stayed strong, gave him a hug and a kiss. Told him I loved him and would be back to pick him up later. With that, a teacher would pry him off of me (literally) and I would walk out the door with tears in my eyes but you know what? It got better and better little by little and now he absolutely LOVES school! He just went back today for the first time after Easter break and he was sooooo excited!

Hang in there! It'll get better!

 

[mommyj]

Thanks Wendy,

So far that's what I've been doing - just letting him do the throw up thing and then bringing him in anyway. It's the mess and the embarassment that drives me crazy, especially since I'm an instructor there now. ugh! I know he'll grow out of it, but it's been over 6 months.