Need Advice on Awkward Situation

[ashaw]

This morning, I had a change of workout plans. I had my heart set on CTX this week, but when I planned things out Sunday, I didn't know I'd be dealing with some disrupted sleep, etc. So, I decided while awake early this morning to just finish things out with Fit Split- I did the Mixed Impact Cardio and Pull Day today and dang, I forgot how hard it is! The biceps giant sets are absolute killer. I was able to do one set with a 35 pound BB, but dropped to 30 for the other sets, but I did use 12's and 15's for the W curls and sweeper curls, but I took pause breaks in between. I certainly want to give CTX another try, but I knew that this morning, I didn't have the mental focus to learn a new step routine, etc.

Not only have I blocked his number, but I also deleted the selfie from my phone. Looking back, I guess it was dumb to take the selfie, but a few months earlier, I did something similar with a very nice young yardman I'd known for about a year. We would always say hello when I'd see him on doing yards on Friday's while out with my dog and he told me last April that he was joining the National Guard. I told him how proud I was of him choosing to serve our country and the last time I saw him, we took a selfie before he went to basic training because I knew I'd never see him again. When I took the selfie with Kevin, I certainly didn't have any flirtatious intentions, it was simply a picture with someone I'd gotten to know over part of last year and that I thought I'd never see again.
I don't know what will happen tomorrow, but you all may certainly be right, that if he thought he was heading towards a possible hook up, well he knows that ain't gonna happen now.

I think sometimes I'm still overwhelmed when I realize what a potential crisis I averted by putting an end to the texting. I know that I didn't do anything wrong and there is nothing in the messages to him that I'm ashamed of. I just hope that I can sleep tonight. Anxiety seems to affect my sleep much more than it used to.

 

[Hazlady]

I think he most likely misinterpreted your friendliness for interest and now you have set him straight. He may be a bit embarrassed, as Linda said, especially if he was dousing himself in aftershave for you. At some point the anxiety will subside, and you will feel stronger knowing you have successfully dealt with the situation.

 

[ashaw]

I’ve actually already done my digital housecleaning. I permanently deleted the selfie, the texts and his number is blocked. It’s good because I needed to clean out pictures and stuff to free up iCloud storage because I don’t want to pay for more storage.

i truly didn’t think the selfie was inappropriate because I’ve taken selfies with a few people I befriended at the Kroger where I shop. One is my Frank who works in dairy, the other was Mary Lou, the self checkout attendant. We took a selfie when she retired because I knew I’d never see her again and I even have her a cute card and a bottle of Jack Daniels.

I don’t know if I could’ve worked my way through dealing with the situation if not for all of your help. I knew I was growing uncomfortable around him and it was something recent but until I really thought over I realized it was the secret texting relationship that was bothering me.

But I have really learned a lot from all of you and I’ve learned how to listen to my intuition, assert myself, and to set boundaries and better set them in the future.

 

[ashaw]

I had my first encounter with Kevin this morning, after Monday. It was very interesting. Jacob, the helper was already there and was talking to Kevin when I walked up. This is the first time in a long time that Jacob has been there that early. Kevin stayed at a distance, hands in his pockets the entire time and didn't say much. He still smelled like aftershave when he petted Luca, but not reeking of it like before. It was awkward, but by Jacob being there it was less awkward because I wasn't alone with Kevin. I slept last night, the bad anxiety has subsided and I know in my heart I did what was right. I put a stop to a situation that was only going to lead to trouble.

Tomorrow will be a week that I came here and told everyone my ordeal. I can't thank you all enough for your support!