Do you have Friday off?

nancy324

nancy324

Cathlete
My office is closed on Thursday and Friday. I'm grumpy though because I have two Thanksgivings to go to. SIL on Thursday and my Mom's house on Friday. I don't remember how this got started, but it's pretty much sticking so it's going to be this way every year. It takes about an hour and a half door to door to get to my SIL's house and the same to get to my Mom's. The worst part is coming back on the train at night full and sleepy. And after seeing one family, I'm usually too tired the next day to see the other family.

If you have Friday off, what are you doing? Shopping?
Does anyone else find being with family draining?

-Grumpy in Brooklyn
 
My son says I don't get Friday off ;) Thursday we're going to my cousin's in Queens. We're doing our own Thanksgiving at home on Friday. Just me, DH, and my son. No shopping. I absolutely abhore all the wack crowds and craziness. We'll just sit around fat and happy, drinking.


"you miss 100% of the shots you never take"


Debbie
 
<Does anyone else find being with family draining?>

YES!!!

I have seen WAY TOO MUCH of my family this year. Both my sister and brother got married and there has been tons of other stuff. I am also trying to go through a personal change of being a better person and I fall into my old habits when I'm around them, especially the eating!!!

I decided to have txgiving ALONE with my DH and NO ONE else. I know it hurt my mom's feelings because by brother and sister are spending the day with thier in-laws. I knew if I didn't do it now, i would never be able to have a Holiday alone with him before we have kids. Also I don't want thanksgiving to be about EATING!!! I'm planning on doing a long workout, relaxing for the afternoon and making a small turkey dinner, stuffing, green beans and pumpkin creme brule.

As for friday, both of us have the day off. I'm not one for big crowds so I plan on just staying home unless I hear of a sale that I just can't pass up. I'll probably catch up on some house work and do a good work out.

I hope your days aren't too stressful.....

Jeanette
 
I grew up in NJ and for so many years, we got up early, went into NY, attended the Thanksgiving Day parade, volunteered at the homeless shleter serving dinners and then came home to celebrate the holiday with family. When we got home, I'd thaw out w/some hot chocolate and watch Miracle on 34th Street (always the first showing of the year on Tday!) Now that I live in Boston, Thanksgiving traditions are very different :(

My office is closed on Friday. I usually get up super early and hit the stores at an un-godly hour for shopping that morning (3 - 4AM) but this year, I am only getting up early (and not nearly *that* early!) if there are really some fantastic deals. There is less to buy this year and different kinds of things to buy (no more toys now that BF's daughter is 12!), so getting up early is not as "profitable" as it used to be ;) But he Friday after Thanksgiving is always the day that I put up my Christmas tree :)

My plan is to take in a nice weekend with lots of movies, rest and time spent hanging out at home! ...you know that will never happen though!
 
I'm sorry Nancy, I imagine 2 T'Days are quite draining...I just have one T-Day and then I will have just one client on Friday, but NO shopping for me!!

Jeanette, I have had a few T-Days with just me and my DH and they were very nice. I sometimes get too much of my family too. So for X-mas we are doing something different and going to my FIL's which will be an 8 hour drive...


...:)..Carole
 
>If you have Friday off, what are you doing? Shopping?
Does anyone else find being with family draining?<

well i don't want to be near any store on friday LOL. i am about done xmas shopping anyway just have some stuff on lay-a-way for my brother in law.

family draining?!?!LOL no not at all i love to hear how my mother in law knows it all b/c she is older then me(then again both my parents have 15 and 20 years on her so do they know more??). then all of sudden b/c somebody she talks to on the computer "says" he has autism she is an expert on the topic, so in turn she tries to give me advice. then after all that she tells everybody there how good i look then starts the pity party b/c she is overweight but doesnt do a darn thing about it.

while all this is going on dad in law is tearing DH up about how he is a kid(hubby is 29 hardly qualifies as kid,young maybe but not kid) while he has drank more beer then would be at a frat party. meanwhile dh only has a 6 pack on tuesdays when ____insert(nip/tuck,sheild,rescue me,and whatever show fx has on for the season at that time),rest of the time he is busting his butt in the college kitchen not getting paid even half of what others make in his field.

if it weren't for his little brother and grandma we wouldn't bother. just grit my teeth,bare it, then come home and do some kickboxing. i think for xmas we should get some sparring equipment so me and hubby can have a few rounds to let it all out LOL. maybe this year will be different, but i say that every year LOL.

for a long time i though my family was a bit dysfunctional but WOW!!! LOL

kassia

When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be
disappointed to discover they are not it -- Bernard Bailey
 
christine,
>I grew up in NJ and for so many years, we got up early, went into NY, attended the Thanksgiving Day parade, volunteered at the homeless shleter serving dinners and then came home to celebrate the holiday with family. When we got home, I'd thaw out w/some hot chocolate and watch Miracle on 34th Street (always the first showing of the year on Tday!) Now that I live in Boston, Thanksgiving traditions are very different <

wow that sounds like a great tradition. my hats off to you, hubby usually does some volunterring through work by staying late and cooking food to be delievered to the food banks.which is what he is doing for a few hours today. the college kids here are pretty good at working with staff for charity throughout the year.

kassia


When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be
disappointed to discover they are not it -- Bernard Bailey
 
Unfortunately, I don't. I get extra work. My kids are home from school that day! :p

I love being with my family because my grandma is the sweetest, I just find being with my ILs draining. Think... Raising Arizona. You remember when they had friends come over to their trailer and the kids were running around tearing up the house and the parents didn't care? That is our Thanksgiving. Except MILs house is already trashed so you really can't tell that if the kids are doing any damage. It is very stressful and noone is thankful for anything, all they do is complain and write out their Christman wishlist (these are the adults I am talking about.) I feel so sorry for DH because he wants to spend time with them, he loves them, but he can never wait to leave. It is the complete opposite of going to my mom's, not that my mom is a picnic but at least you don't leave with a headache and there is some order.

Missy
 
I never find my family draining. I wish I had both houses to go through this year both of my parents are gone but I still very much enjoy seeing my other relatives on the holidays. I love getting together with everyon the more houses to visit the better.:)
 
I'm off Thanksgiving this year, but work Friday. It's just DH, kids, MIL and I for the meal, unless DD's boyfriends stops by. Some friends plan on joining us for dessert later on. Big holiday get togethers with family are usually not too stressful. The preparation leading up to the event is what drive me crazy, but that my own fault for insisting on mega amounts of homemade treats. I work Christmas weekend this year, so my time to complain will be in a month or so.
 
Hi Nancy! Well just be thankful that you don't have to COOK!! I always cook every year & I don't have Friday off either.x( I'm usually soooo tired on Friday. I don't even know why my office is opened. There's never any work to do & I leave early anyway. Sheesh! But one good thing is only my BIL is coming over so its a small group. Enjoy your turkey. Happy Thanksgiving! All my best, Kathy:D
 
Morning Ladies :)

Yep! Thursday & Friday off here too ;-) And we get too leave extra early today. Have a great Thanksgiving guys :9 :9

Teddygirl is in charge~
 
I have Friday off, and have only one family gathering to go to on Thursday. It's not draining because we all get along (except for my sister, whom I just choose to ignore).

My SO comes along, and this is HIS primary Thankgiving gathering, also. His kids (all grown) always see their mother but not him on Thanksgiving, and the same deal for Xmas. His kids make time for him AFTER they see all the other relatives. I feel bad for him, but he takes it in stride.

This is the same bunch who invited him out for Father's Day (two months after the fact!), and made him pay for his own meal!!!! I believe that proper word for that would be "chutzpah!"
Just Do It! :)
 
I have the whole week off (we used to give students just Thursday and Friday off, then they took Wednesday off anyway. So we gave them Wednesday, and the took Monday and Tuesday off! Now, we just give them---and teachers as well--the whole week...and some of them STILL take the Friday before off!).

I don't celebrate Thanksgiving anymore...not much family left to speak of, and none of them close, and IMO sacrificing mass quantities of Turkies for tradition is nothing to be thankful for...but I use the time to catch up on my own research, some back-logged correcting, some book reviews I have due, some committee work, and house cleaning. I think I need a break FROM this break!

I would most definitely NOT go shopping on Friday, the busiest shopping day of the year!

On Thanksgiving day, a friend and I are going to see a movie, probably "Derailed" or the new Harry Potter. Trying to hit the theaters while everyone else is still chowing down on Thanksgiving dinner!

When I did celebrate Thanksgiving by going to relatives, it was draining. Usually, I spent the day with my mother's relatives (my parents were divorced) and they did the whole "women cook and clean and men watch the football game on TV" thing. When I think back on it, I just recall rainy, boring, low-energy times. And maybe there wasn't even rain, but it seemed like one of those days.
 
I do have Friday off this year. I will spend it cleaning the house
x( and working out.:) I only found out we have off a few days ago, so this is especially sweet. I also have two Thanksgiving meals to go to. My in-laws have Thanksgiving at their house every year; it's about an hour and a half drive. Since DH and I are vegans and his family is not, I have to make our main dish and any side dishes we want to eat in addition to their salad. My in-laws are easy to get along with for the most part, as long as we don't discuss politics. ;-) My niece is not always well behaved - but this year she won't be there! Her parents and she are going out to dinner with her other grandparents instead. My in-laws want to go out to the movies after dinner this year. Should be interesting!

The second Thanksgiving is at my house on Sunday. But, my Mom cooks almost the whole meal and all I have to do is one or two dishes. My family is also vegan and my Mom is a fantastic cook who makes healthful foods! :9
FitDoggie

"The reward for work well done is the opportunity to do more."
 
I would love to share Thanksgiving with family. My parents are both gone and my sisters live about 1000 miles away. Besides they all do their own traditions with their own families and no one gets together anyway. My husbands family lives too far away too. I guess it's always easier to appreciate what you don't have and vise-versa.
 
I do get Friday off from work. :) I don't find spending time with family to be draining it all - it's the traveling and being away from my own home that is most draining for me. This year, DH and I are spending Thanksgiving with my parents, which we're both looking forward to. The day after, we're going to buy a new treadmill, but that will be the extent of our shopping. We're able to get a better deal on it in Chicago than we are in Peoria. I loathe the holiday shopping crowds - I prefer to buy everything online and have it shipped right to my front door. No crowds, no driving, no Salvation Army bell-ringers tackling me in front of every store. ;)
 
It's interesting to hear what everyone else is up to.

Kathy, my SIL always complains about "having" to cook each year, but one year I suggested that she let me "do" Thanksgiving at my house (there would be lots of catering involved) and she refused to give it up! At least now she can't complain anymore. }( Sounds like a nice small group. Enjoy!

HB, how awful. I'm sure your SO deserves better treatment. Why can't they just switch off each year? My stepson takes turns each year. This year he is going to his Mom's on Thursday, but we get him on Friday.

I know I should be more grateful for my family. Actually, I am grateful for them and I even enjoy them. My SIL is rather narrow-minded and she can be a pain sometimes, but she has a good heart. My Mom puts me down a lot, but I love seeing the kids and the pup (my canine nephew, as I call him). I just have a problem keeping up my energy. Which I need to deflect my Mom's put-downs. Maybe I'll do some extra workouts for stamina today and tomorrow.

Kassia - LOL
Christine - I grew up in NJ too. What part are you from?


Have a good one everybody!
 
I think you'll find that "recipe" serves you well!!

I have class tonight, which sucks, since I need to be cooking!! But I do have Friday off, and then exams start Monday. Not much of a break!

My parents come over to our house for brunch, then we go up to DH's family's house for dinner. It's draining, but it's only one day for us. Christmas turns into 2-3 this way, and that's more draining. I'm very lucky we can do each in one day if we have to- my parents live about 10 minutes away from us, DH's family lives about 1.5 hours away. They would never come to our house, and I guess that's better in the long run.

We've done it this way for a few years. They come over and "watch the parade" which means I don't have to entertain or make small talk. DH makes waffles at the same time. Mmm waffles. ;)
 
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