This thread has been incredibly insightful—thank you all for sharing your stories and experiences.
I wasn’t born with what people might consider a “genetically gifted” athletic body. As an ectomorph, I’ve always found it difficult to build muscle mass, and my frame lacks the curves that many around me seemed to prize. In my late 20s, I pursued fitness for all the wrong reasons—
not from a place of self-love, but to silence the unkind comments from others, particularly from some college women who, frankly, could be quite harsh.
As someone in STEM, I naturally take a methodical and research-driven approach to health and fitness. After diving into books, watching countless testimonials, and examining scientific studies, I eventually simplified my focus to one core metric:
strength-to-weight ratio. That became my personal gauge of success.
Just my two cents, from where I stand today.