Advice about the new cat.....

joditoad1974

Cathlete
He is hiding, and wont come out. I got him out yesterday, and he sat on my lap for about 30 minutes and let me pet him. I have never got a cat before that was 3 years old, they were always kittens. Should I just give him time, or what should I do?

My friend got rid of him because she is going though a divorce, and moving back with her parents because of money....her dad has empysma and asthma, so the cat cant stay in the house, and she does not want him to get hit by a car outside. Her husband is just a piece of crap....he did not want him. She cried when she gave him to me, but she is happy to find him a home where he will be loved, and she can still visit him!

joanna
 
Give him time. I remember when I got my cat--& I have 2 dogs--I put a gate up in the laundry room doorway so she could come out when she wanted but the dogs couldn't get to her. It took her 3 days before she finally ventured out on her own, & about a week before the laundry room wasn't her primary living area.

Cats are so different than dogs--you can't push them or coax them into anything. Their entire lives are lived on their own terms. ;-)
 
When we rescued our cat from the SPCA, she hid under my bed for about 3 weeks. She came out to eat when we weren't home, but she pretty much didn't leave the bedroom otherwise (except to go to the bathroom - also while we were out). Now she's the biggest, suckiest cat ever.

Just give your new cat time to get used to his new surroundings, etc.:)
 
Time is the best suggestion. You may want to keep him on one room, with his litter box, food and water, until he seems more relaxed and ready to explore. Three yrs old isn't really very old for a cat, so I bet he acclimatizes pretty fast.
 
Just give her time,he's probably scared to death right now with the new enviroment and all but he'll come round once he figures out he'll be fed and is safe,you might want to try putting him in a room by himself for several hours or so and then opening it for several and see if he wants to explore and gradually shorten the time he is in the room with the door shut and lenghten the time he can explore ,that way it gives him a safe place that's his he can go to until he feels more sure of himself and his surroundings ,Good Luck
Mrsscififanec
 
Yeah, remember, a house is a cat's entire universe, so when they move someplace new, every single thing in their universe is different!

You may want to consider using Felliway.... it is a plug-in product that releases pheremones. You can get it at PetSmart. It works to calm cats down when they are stressed about the environment. (It's also good if you have behavioral issues; we have three cats and had some dominance issues which resulted in spraying... YUCK! But the Felliway worked.) It is kind of expensive (about $30 for the starter kit - don't bother getting the one with the video, just get the plug-in unit), but so worth it for the kitty's peace of mind.

Good luck!

Marie
 
I agree give him time. Whatever you do - don't drag him out - he may not forget it! Strangely enough with cats you best bet may be to ignore him. Unlike a dog, cats tend to withdraw more the more you try to draw them out. My suggestion would be to get on the floor where he can see you, talk nicely to him but don't try to reach him - lay there and read a book or something but don't look at him. Make sure you're not blocking him in with your body - cats always need an escape route. He may not come out right away but he'll at least get the message that you're calm and non-threatening. He'll come around.

Trish
 
Yes, it always takes time for a kitty to adjust to a new home. You should try setting up a safe room for the kitty to stay in for the first couple of days, rather than giving him access to the whole house right away. He will feel much more secure in a smaller space - it's less intimidating. Then, as he begins to adjust, you can let him out into the rest of the house, suerpvised, for small amounts of time. If he wants to go back to his safe room, let him - don't try to force or coax him out. It will all come with time. I have had some kitties who were very timid about exploring their new home, and some who just ran out and wanted to see everything right away. It just depends on the cat. Make sure he feels safe and secure (by giving him a smaller space just for him), and he will come around on his own time. :)
 
Oh yes - I forgot, you may have already done this, put the litterbox in the same room for now, and his food too - just not near the litterbox.

Good luck!
Trish
 
Our first cat did that when we brought him home.
He's scared. He'll come around slowly, as he sees your not going to hurt him. Keep his food out, make sure he knows where his litter box is. I remember, after everyone would go to bed, i would sit and watch tv with the lights out and he would gradually start coming out toward me.

My daughter at the time would sit on the floor and meow like a cat, and he would always poke his head out to see what that was. It was funny, i would tell her she was talking to him (cat whisperer??)

Good luck and be patient, i'll betcha by the end of the weekend he'll be purring on your lap.
 
I'll echo what everyone else says: just give him time. And don't stress about it, or the cat will pick that up and feel more stressed. Where is he hiding? If it's somewhere that you can hang out close to (ie: cat's under the bed, you can sit on the bed; cat's under the sofa, you can sit in a chair across from the sofa) just settle in, read a book or watch a movie, and talk sweet talk to the kitty once in a while. Sprinkling some catnip in a more open area near his hiding place (ie: 6 inches away from the sofa, if he's hiding under the sofa, but not yet in the middle of the room, which takes him far from his current "safe place), can coax him out (unless he's one of the percentage of cats who aren't affected by catnip). And when he does come out, just talk to him, tell him he's a good boy, use his name. Try to let him come to you, even though you may be tempted to go and grab him.

I had talked a neighbor of mine into adopting one of the cats at the shelter who was very shy, but very sweet. I hadn't seen the neighbor for three weeks after the adoption (our schedules are very different), and when I did and asked her how the cat was she said "o.k., I guess, I haven't seen her." Seems that for those three weeks, the cat hid all day, and hung out with her other cat at night (doing her business and eating, but otherwise invisible). We went down in the basement where the cat was (but neighbor didn't know where), and I spotted a perfect hiding place on top of some old mattresses. We looked, and there she was. We took her upstairs and let her roam whereever she wanted (her choice was to hid in the piano!). Little by little, she got braver, and eventually became very friendly (though still hid from stangers).

If this goes on for too long (like three weeks), then you might want to pry kitty out of hiding, having some catnip and toys and lots of pets ready so kitty remembers the good things and not the "prying". Also, ask your friend what special things kitty especially likes (toys, treats).

I adopted my most recent addition, Rascal, because even though he is young, and healthy, and very sweet (never a mean gesture to human or cat), he is very much a scaredy cat and wouldn't socialize with anyone (except me, after he got to know me). They didn't think he'd adapt well to moving into a different room at the shelter ( they were going to move the "adolescents" into the adult room to make room for new kittens in the kitten room and put the current batch of kittens in the ado room), and were seriously thinking of euthanizing him. When I brought him home, he hid in a corner (he was too scared to even try the basement!) for a day (craning his neck and looking like a Komodo dragon to look around at all the scarey things). Then came out into a cat tunnel for about two days: startling every time I walked by. Then he hung out under the sofa for about 3 days. Now, he's much more social and doesn't hide (but he still gets scared of new experiences and sometimes if I make quick gestures---though he's never been hit or mistreated). He'll come on the bed when I go to bed, and in the morning and stretch out sooo looooong, but he's only been staying about 3 minutes at most (he has feline ADD, I think!). In the last couple of days, he's actually stayed for about 1/2 hour when I took a nap, and 15 minutes at night.

Please do give him some time. Someone adopted a cat from the shelter, got frustrated after only one week when he wouldn't come out of the closet, and brought him back.
 
We've been a 3 cat family for as long as I can remember. I always keep my new kitties separated from the rest of the household when I first get them. We always set them up in the bathroom with food, water, litter, toys, etc. They stay in there when we are at work and when we are home to supervise, we open the door and let the new kitten explore. I usually do this because sometimes I feel as though the kitten is too small to defend itself against the bigger cats...but my last cat came from a shelter when he was 4 months old and I didn't separate him because I wasn't working at the time, so I was always home to supervise. He did not have the "hiding" problem though, he just investigated SEVERELY for about 3 days. He got to know every inch of that house and then he just made himself right at home and loved us right from the start. All cats are different. Your cat is really scared and probably misses it's owner. You have gotten great suggestions about being around the cat "in a non threatening way", letting it get used to your voice and seeing that your kind and you are loving. I've read and my vet has told me that cats always respond to LOVE, and this is why you're not really supposed to scold a cat or hit them like you do dogs. Just give him lots of love (as much as you can) and soon enough, he'll come out and explore and after he explores and feels comfortable, you'll see his true personality start to come out..........the joy of having cats. Each one is unique!! Keep us posted.

ETA: I forgot to mention that my cats are only okay around me and my husband. When strangers come over, they go under the bed. They are terrified by company. We don't have company that often....thank goodness. Our house got robbed once and one of my (strictly) indoor cats got outside and was "lost" for a while. I wouldn't even talk to the cops until I found my baby!!! She eventually found her way back to the house. She must have heard our voices.
 
Kathyrn, my Russian Blue (mix, but he is a dead ringer) is named Rascal, too! (Actually, it's "Raskolnikov" but the kids were like... "Yeah, right!" lol)

Marie
 
Just give him some space and don't pressure him. He'll warm up to you soon. Our "baby", who will be 2 this summer, was like that when he came to live with us. I imagine it was quite overwhelming for him.

He was found in a man's car engine, brought to a house with a St. Bernard, then brought to my house the next day. We already had 2 full-grown cats and a large dog. Plus there was a 3 year old that just wanted to carry him EVERYWHERE!

He used to hide under our couch all the time. I can't recall how long it took for him to start hanging out with us, but I'll bet it was less than a week.

It's a very stressful situation for an animal.
 
Another thought: does he have a special kitty "hiding spot"? Like a cat tower with holes in that he can stay in? Or a kitty "tunnel." Or even a paper bag? Giving him such a space could help ease the transition from wherever he is hiding (and where is that, by the way?) and open space. Especially if you add some catnip or a toy. (I'm pushing the catnip!! Feline drug of choice.)
 
Thanks for all the suggestions guys....he likes to hide behind the tv, and in my sons closet. I hope he will adjust soon. I will get some catnip this weekend, and see if it helps.

joanna
 
So many of us cat lovers here!

Would Felliway work to prevent or reduce introducing new cats to each other?

My BF and I are moving to Florida together, and will combine both our our 2 cat households - 3 girls and 1 boy. I'm worried about them all getting along. They'll be traumatized enough by the move - I hate the thought of more trauma getting adjusted to their new brother and sister!

(Yes, I baby my cats to death - but....they're my babies!)
;-)

Joni
 
sure he will. One of my 2 cats was a ferrell cat. It took QUITE a long time to adjust but now she is a lap cat. Keep us posted. What's the name?
 

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