ashaw
Cathlete
Its been awhile since I've been here because I've been so busy over the past few months. But my life took an unexpected turn on June 17, 2025. Things at my household were already tense and when we got the foreclosure notice back in March, that just intensified matters. The closer we got to July, the more difficult things started getting.
I had been working from home as a licensed insurance customer service rep and finally completed all stages of my training - licensing, product and on the job training. I officially began my production schedule on June 16. My hours were 11:30 AM - 8:00 PM. The first day was really hard because when I got off work, there wasn't really any downtime like getting off at 5 PM. Things were also getting really bad between my husband and myself. The next morning, I was up and at 'em, did Lower Body Stacked Sets and was getting my work computer booted up. My husband was in the bathroom getting ready for a doctor appointment and called me in to ask me about a charge on his paypal account. He paid 99 cents for a background check but was charged $29 for a monthly sub. I told him that we didn't authorize that and I specifically opted out of the monthly program. He unleashed his wrath on me like never before, coming at me and screaming in my face, calling me a liar and furious because I didn't give him a yes/no answer. He said, get out of this house, go call your parents now. And I did exactly just that. I was absolutely terrified. While he was the doctor, I began packing all my things. My mom and step dad came and helped me get out. He got back from the doctor while I was packing my things and said, I didn't mean for you to move out, I meant for you to go stay with them a few days. I told him something like, how much is one person supposed to keep taking. This has been a pattern of verbal/emotional abuse over a number of years. He didn't get aggressive when I was packing my things, was very cowered when my stepdad went and talked to him and the police were called to keep things from getting out of hand.
I'm at my mom and stepdad's, Luca is with me and she and my stepdad are best buddies. I'm very careful with her around my mom and so far, Luca has been like a different dog, so peaceful and calm because my husband would yell at her when she would bark the yard crew. I had intake for group counseling with the Houston Area Women's Center and my first zoom session is tomorrow night. I have a nice room, a place to workout, Luca has a huge yard and although I had to resign my job while I was moving out, the pressure working there was unreal and the metrics one had to adhere to was beyond anything I'd seen. No wonder we lost 5 of the 12 people during on the job training. I got called out for 3 mistakes on my first day, one of which I was following the advice of support. I even told my husband that I was overwhelmed and overloaded and if it was just the stress of the job or just the stress of the house it would be one thing but the two had been on a crash course from day 1.
My mom and stepdad have been wonderful, they told me to take my time and heal before looking for work. Now I can use the CNA education I worked so hard for last year because working in home health is what I've really wanted to do. My car battery went dead last Friday and my step dad not only replaced the battery but cleaned up the terminals, checked the oil, tires and even got me these special custom sunshades for the front and back windows because my car is on the driveway at their house.
Meanwhile I found out that my husband is going to move into a condo on July 15. I don't know how he qualified for a lease without me as a co-applicant and not having a job. Supposedly he is going to start work as construction inspector but I'll believe it when I see it. He's been texting me all the time trying to get me to come back, promising he won't yell at me again and that I won't have to do all the housework ever again. I've been selective about what I reply to. I did give tech support on the washing machine and will be mailing back garage and gate openers. He's in free counseling from a church and wanted me to go to couples counseling with him and the women's center said that is the worst thing someone can do because the offender will know how to manipulate the counselor. Change takes much more time than just 2 weeks and an article I read online said that his behavior is classic of wanting to get someone to come back. He saw a volunteer counselor about his temper back in 2023 but no lasting change followed.
I'm not in a hurry to do anything, I'm just finally at peace after a long time. Workout wise, I'm actually starting my 3rd week of Chalean Extreme. I'm just thankful to finally be out although this isn't what I thought my exit would look like. I was getting concerned about being a party to a lease with him because that would all but eliminate my chances to leave because I would be breaking a legal contract and possibly still be liable for my share of the rent. And leases now are a year minimum. All in all, I'm just glad I'm finally out. The stress was wearing me down.
I had been working from home as a licensed insurance customer service rep and finally completed all stages of my training - licensing, product and on the job training. I officially began my production schedule on June 16. My hours were 11:30 AM - 8:00 PM. The first day was really hard because when I got off work, there wasn't really any downtime like getting off at 5 PM. Things were also getting really bad between my husband and myself. The next morning, I was up and at 'em, did Lower Body Stacked Sets and was getting my work computer booted up. My husband was in the bathroom getting ready for a doctor appointment and called me in to ask me about a charge on his paypal account. He paid 99 cents for a background check but was charged $29 for a monthly sub. I told him that we didn't authorize that and I specifically opted out of the monthly program. He unleashed his wrath on me like never before, coming at me and screaming in my face, calling me a liar and furious because I didn't give him a yes/no answer. He said, get out of this house, go call your parents now. And I did exactly just that. I was absolutely terrified. While he was the doctor, I began packing all my things. My mom and step dad came and helped me get out. He got back from the doctor while I was packing my things and said, I didn't mean for you to move out, I meant for you to go stay with them a few days. I told him something like, how much is one person supposed to keep taking. This has been a pattern of verbal/emotional abuse over a number of years. He didn't get aggressive when I was packing my things, was very cowered when my stepdad went and talked to him and the police were called to keep things from getting out of hand.
I'm at my mom and stepdad's, Luca is with me and she and my stepdad are best buddies. I'm very careful with her around my mom and so far, Luca has been like a different dog, so peaceful and calm because my husband would yell at her when she would bark the yard crew. I had intake for group counseling with the Houston Area Women's Center and my first zoom session is tomorrow night. I have a nice room, a place to workout, Luca has a huge yard and although I had to resign my job while I was moving out, the pressure working there was unreal and the metrics one had to adhere to was beyond anything I'd seen. No wonder we lost 5 of the 12 people during on the job training. I got called out for 3 mistakes on my first day, one of which I was following the advice of support. I even told my husband that I was overwhelmed and overloaded and if it was just the stress of the job or just the stress of the house it would be one thing but the two had been on a crash course from day 1.
My mom and stepdad have been wonderful, they told me to take my time and heal before looking for work. Now I can use the CNA education I worked so hard for last year because working in home health is what I've really wanted to do. My car battery went dead last Friday and my step dad not only replaced the battery but cleaned up the terminals, checked the oil, tires and even got me these special custom sunshades for the front and back windows because my car is on the driveway at their house.
Meanwhile I found out that my husband is going to move into a condo on July 15. I don't know how he qualified for a lease without me as a co-applicant and not having a job. Supposedly he is going to start work as construction inspector but I'll believe it when I see it. He's been texting me all the time trying to get me to come back, promising he won't yell at me again and that I won't have to do all the housework ever again. I've been selective about what I reply to. I did give tech support on the washing machine and will be mailing back garage and gate openers. He's in free counseling from a church and wanted me to go to couples counseling with him and the women's center said that is the worst thing someone can do because the offender will know how to manipulate the counselor. Change takes much more time than just 2 weeks and an article I read online said that his behavior is classic of wanting to get someone to come back. He saw a volunteer counselor about his temper back in 2023 but no lasting change followed.
I'm not in a hurry to do anything, I'm just finally at peace after a long time. Workout wise, I'm actually starting my 3rd week of Chalean Extreme. I'm just thankful to finally be out although this isn't what I thought my exit would look like. I was getting concerned about being a party to a lease with him because that would all but eliminate my chances to leave because I would be breaking a legal contract and possibly still be liable for my share of the rent. And leases now are a year minimum. All in all, I'm just glad I'm finally out. The stress was wearing me down.
